Instant Love List

Happy Sunday, friends! As the month of February comes to a close (how is that even possible?!), I am going to touch on one final topic of love. I recently came across the idea of an an “instant love list” and thought this could be something I would want to implement in my life and more importantly share with you guys. An instant love list is a list of things that you write down and refer back to when you need some guidance or extra love that day. You write down things that make you happy and feel like your best self. This doesn’t have to be a long list but more so small meaningful actions that can lift your mood and make your heart happier. I also loved the fact that by making this it really showed me what I value the most and what I am most grateful for. Being in touch with what makes you happy makes those hard days just a little bit easier. I am really excited about this and hope you all will make one of your own to follow. Here is what I’ve come up with for my instant love list:




A Sister’s Love

Before I left for college we knew we would miss each other, I mean we are sisters and have lived together our whole lives. But it also got to the point where whenever we would fight it would end in “is this how you want me to remember you when you leave?” and “I’m leaving soon so you better be nice to me.” So dramatic, I know. It was a weird transition of seeing each other every day to maybe getting a text here and there or a picture just to keep up with our snapchat streak. These last few weeks or so she’s started calling me on her way home from school and I love it. She tells me about her day and all of the high school drama back at home. Because she is so busy with school and volleyball I haven’t gotten to see her nearly as much as I would like other than breaks. So I guess I just wanted to take this week to tell her how much she means to me and how lucky I am to have her as my sissy. Even though we don’t always show it, we do actually like each other sometimes. Our little dates this past summer are some of my favorite memories. We would go see a movie, get some sushi or froyo and just soak up those last moments of living under the same roof. She’s a really good sister and even better friend. I miss her a lot and I miss being able to just go in her room to say hi before bed. She’s such a hard worker and I admire her drive in everything she does. She really is making a name for herself. Definitely a proud sister to say the least. I am so incredibly lucky to have her and miss her so much every day. Keep killing it, Em. You rock my socks you pretty young thing.

My 5 Love Languages

We all give and receive love in a way that is unique to us. I’m sure many of you have heard of them or even taken this online quiz before. These are called love languages and there are five of them. They include quality time, physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, and receiving gifts. None of them are better or worse than the other. I just took the quiz again for the first time in a few years and my answers have slightly changed. Many people associate this quiz with marriage but it definitely doesn’t have to be. I think it’s a really cool way to learn about yourself and how you appreciate love in different degrees. So I am going to share with you my love languages and the way I express and take in love. These are how my “rankings” turned out:

Quality Time (10)

Physical Touch (9)

Words of Affirmation (5)

Acts of Service (4)

Receiving Gifts (2)

Quality Time

This isn’t surprising to me that this is my number one love language. I would spend every day with the people I love if I could. Just simply be in their presence, talking, and enjoying each other’s company is my ideal way of spending time. Humans crave that deep connection and attention from those they admire.

Physical Touch

Ever since I was a little girl I remember my whole family constantly hugging and cuddling so this is isn’t much of a shock either. Hugs are my favorite and just make me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. It’s always such a great feeling to give someone a much needed long hug. My parents were always super affectionate towards me to make sure I physically knew I was loved (not that I ever questioned it for a second). I have them to thank for this second love language.

Words of Affirmation

I think everyone likes to hear that they are loved, appreciated, or just being thought of. Whether they are coming from yourself, a parent, sibling, grandparent, friend, or anyone else you love they only make you feel better about yourself and like you maybe actually did do something right for once.

Acts of Service

This could be as simple as my roommate refilling the Brita filter in the mini fridge in our dorm. Little tasks just being done out of kindness to another person are usually the best ones. Just because this is ranked second to last definitely doesn’t mean I don’t appreciate these small things. It’s a great feeling knowing that someone did something for you just to make you happy or your day a little bit easier.

Receiving Gifts

So those that know me really well can tell you I LOVE giving gifts, but when it comes to receiving gifts it seems to fall to the bottom of my list. Don’t get me wrong, I think it is so much fun to open a gift from someone who picked it out especially for you. But if I could choose to actually spend more time with that person, I would choose it over a gift any day.

Make sure this month you are really focusing on giving love, in whatever way you see fit. Show appreciation, give compliments, and just simply be present when you are with those you care about. Happy almost Valentine’s Day!



The month of February is all about love. Whether it’s loving friends, family, a significant other, or yourself it is all good and it is all important. The feeling of being loved is something we as humans crave. So what’s the difference if it is coming from yourself? Self-love is all the rage these days. Not only is it trendy but it is true and very very real. The act of self-love is not simply filling your mind with positive affirmations in the mirror every morning, but believing that you are valuable beyond measure. You have something to contribute to this world. You are magic, a bright beautiful goddess gifted to this earth by God. You don’t need to please everyone or live your life for anyone else but you. Society has so much to say about how we should behave, look, and even feel. You can’t buy into any of it. Stop doubting yourself and accept the things you can not change. The journey to self-love is one of the hardest things you will ever do. I am on this journey too and no where near finished. It doesn’t happen over night. It probably will take years. This isn’t a selfish act either, it is just knowing your worth and not stopping until you reach your goals. Make this the year of you. Do what you need to do. Set goals, work in silence, and let your actions reflect your work. You are capable of amazing things and don’t let anyone ever tell you otherwise.